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Published August 25th, 2025 by Wrestling Mindset

Coaching The Parents: Donnie DeFillipis | Wrestling Mindset Podcast

In this episode of the Wrestling Mindset Podcast, Gene Zannetti talks with Donnie DeFillipis about the role parents play in their child’s wrestling journey. Parents can either lift their kids up or unintentionally bring them down — often without even realizing it. The discussion covers the subtle messages parents send, the importance of coaching parents alongside athletes, and why it’s powerful to show kids that you’re learning and growing with them.

Episode Highlights

1:15 – Parents are there to help, but how they do it matters.
10:05 – The messages you’re sending your kids — even when you don’t realize it.
12:38 – There’s a wrestling club on every corner, but not every environment is equal.
15:58 – Why parents sometimes listen to other parents more than the coaches.
20:40 – When parents can’t control themselves, kids pay the price.
30:30 – Helping kids get better while still having fun.
41:44 – The importance of parents admitting when they’re wrong.
45:46 – What’s the best part of having a kid? Donnie shares his perspective.

Why This Episode Matters

Parents are the unsung coaches in wrestling. How they talk before, during, and after matches can deeply influence their child’s mindset. This conversation with Donnie DeFillipis highlights why parents need coaching too — not just athletes. By modeling humility, patience, and growth, parents can help their kids enjoy the sport, stay motivated, and develop a healthier long-term relationship with wrestling.