Building Unstoppable Confidence

Confidence is so important to our success I have decided to do at least a 3 part series. What can we do to build Unstoppable Confidence? A different approach to building confidence is taken from behavioral theorists (a major branch of psychology). It may be common sense that the body listens to the mind. If…

Ditch Your Excuses Now

My high school wrestling coach, the great Steve Giordano (NJ State Champ & college All-American) would always tell us, “never give yourself an excuse to lose.” You do not want anything holding you back when you compete. If you choose to compete, If you choose to do anything, you must eliminate all excuses. In Sport…

How to Regain Control of your Energy

Think back to the moments leading up to a big competition or performance. Think about the atmosphere in the locker room. Think about how people moved around. Before a competition or performance you tend to see a lot of nervous energy. People fidget and pace. They develop idiosyncratic quirks and twitches. They develop a tunnel…

Perfection – Good or Evil?

Perfection is the enemy of good. When you were young, the adults taught you how to detect and delete mistakes. This makes sense. I order to achieve at a high level, mistakes must be reduced. The key thing to remember is that mistakes are never eliminated. We have all heard that practice makes perfect. Then…

How to Bounce Back from a Loss

You are a human, you make mistakes. There is a simple but effective way to deal with ALL loses, errors, mistakes, etc: extract the lesson, commit the lesson to memory, forgive yourself, and move forward with confidence. It is important that you do not repeat your mistakes, so you should note your shortcomings and downfalls.…

Action Beats Inaction

When in doubt, err on the side of taking action. Sometimes you are forced to make a difficult decision. You have information supporting you, “going for it.” And you have conflicting information supporting, “not doing anything.” At this moment, 9 out of 10 times I would recommend going for it. You have a greater chance…

Top 10 Worst Phrases for a Competition

10. “I have to…” 9. “I need to…” 8. “I ought to…” 7. “I should…” 6. “I must…” 5. “This is it OR This is everything..” 4. “Do or die” 3. “Make it or break it” 2. “It’s now or never” 1. “Don’t miss “OR “Don’t (anything)” All competitions and practices are important, but nothing…