As a Coach or Parent it is advisable to avoid the common phrase "Give up One and not Two."
If you are coaching inexperienced wrestlers I have no problem with this phrase. In fact, it is an important lesson to understand.
However, any intermediate or advanced wrestler is well aware that it is better to give up one point than two. Physically and logically this makes a lot of sense.
But what does it do to our wrestlers mentally?
First of all, it shows no confidence in the wrestler on top. Sometimes we forget that the Top position is also called OFFENSE! Give up 1 and not 2 puts the top wrestler in a Defensive Mindset. I prefer the phrases "Solid Breakdown" or "Put him away here."
Also, we want our wrestlers thinking more about what they want to do rather than what they don't want to happen. Get the wrestler thinking about getting to his first move, breakdown, then turn of choice. Look to score rather than avoid being scored on!
Lastly, this phrase changes our mindset on top. Maybe our wrestler is a leg or crab rider. Maybe these wrestlers are more likely to give up reversals (2 not 1) but the last I want my wrestlers doing in a close match is questioning themselves. Live by the sword die by the sword in this case! Confidence, Clarity and Consistency will most often prevail over Hesitation and Uncertainty. Don't change your approach/mindset late in the match! Unless you can do so confidently and deliberately, stick with what you do well and what you trust.
Experienced wrestlers do NOT need to hear the phrase "Give up 1 but not 2" anymore. Focus on getting a solid breakdown even in a close match or with little time. Give up NOTHING but take EVERYTHING!
Stop letting injuries hold you back!
I understand that injuries are often very physically restricting, but I also know that most injuries effect wrestlers more mentally than anything else.
If you wrestle a long career, injuries in wrestling are going to happen. Almost no high level wrestler is competing completely injury free.
That doesn't mean that you STOP getting better just because you are injured.
That is a common misconception: I am hurt, and can't get on the mat so there is no way I can get better.
That is true ONLY if you believe it and let it become true!
I have seen wrestlers emerge from injuries stronger than before the injury.
Most wrestlers, however, let it effect them negatively in their mind. They focus on how much practice they are missing, how their opponents must be getting better, how the injury will affect them in the future. They put all their energy and focus on the negatives and fail to realize that this could be the best thing that happened to them.
Our wrestlers aren't allowed to dwell on the downside of their injuries.
2 things I have our Wrestlers do when they first suffer an injury:
1. Make a list of all the wrestlers you know (do research if you have to) who achieved your goal with an injury or less than ideal circumstance.
This is usually easy for most wrestlers to do. If these wrestlers can do it why can't you?
2. Make a LONG list of the ways you CAN get better in wrestling even with your injury.
There are SO many ways wrestlers can get better even if they cannot physically wrestle:
Studying film, RECOVERING (sometimes that's exactly what you need), Mindset Training, focusing on Nutrition, Finding your Passion for the sport, getting stronger or in better shape (just because one leg is hurt doesn't mean you let the other leg suffer!), and on and on!
Again, MOST injuries are more in your mind than anything else. I'm not telling you to be stupid and wrestle through serious injuries. BUT you can and will get better even when you are injured if you DECIDE to!
Kyle Dake has a good article on this topic in WIN magazine this month. He quoted us when we told him at the NWCA convention that, "Whatever happens to you in this sport, you have to truly believe that it is the best thing for your training and career."
It's the truth! Focus on the negative and your minor injuries will turn into major injuries and major injuries into career enders. Focus on the positives and they will make you better than you were before the injury!
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