One of the toughest things to deal with is falling short of a lifelong goal or dream. Maybe you didn't win a state or national title that you dreamed about all your life. Does this mean you failed?
Life is all about how you frame things.
When I was in high school I dominated the competition throughout my senior season until I came up short in the state finals. In college I lost a wrestle off before the conference tournament to end my hopes at becoming an All American. Both were devastating.
For several years I looked at my career as a failure. I see a similar problem with many wrestlers that I know and have worked with. Now I know better and so will our athletes.
It all comes down to how you frame your wrestling career. How has wrestling impacted your life? What did you GAIN?
If you were Fanatical about your wrestling career, you can rest assure your life has changed in a positive way. If you truly committed to a lifestyle of Intensity, Consistency, & Constant Improvement on the mat, you didn't fail you succeeded whether you won a title or not.
Through A Fanatical wrestling career you have learned Discipline, Accountability, Work Ethic, Sacrifice, Dedication; as well as Physical and Mental Training tools that you will have for your ENTIRE life.
Wrestling has given my brothers and I the Physical and Mental tools it takes to pursue and live a Fanatical life- in our careers, our two businesses (Z-Fanatical Fitness & Wrestling Mindset), our relationships, and our lives. We have GAINED so much from wrestling, so whether we have "succeeded" in winning state or national titles we did not fail in our wrestling careers. We succeeded and I am sure so did you.
You are better person and will have a successful life if you apply these principles in your career, your relationships, and everything that comes your way. If you haven't yet, start framing your wrestling career this way.
STOP looking at what you lost or what you didn't achieve and START looking at what you have GAINED from wrestling. Then no matter what happened, you succeeded and NO ONE can take that from you.
No one is born great are they? Of course not...well its sort of complicated. The great motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, "We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with."
Let's look at some of Chris Perry's family: John Smith (uncle)-6x World Champion, Mark Perry Jr. (brother) 2x NCAA Champion, and Mark Perry Sr. (father) 2x All American.
Without a doubt, the knowledge and experience coming from his family is second to none. The thing that isn't talked about as much is the Power of Positive Expectations.
"Whether you think you can or think you can't- you are right"-Henry Ford
- When you expect greatness you give yourself a chance to achieve it. Rarely does anyone ever stumble upon greatness. (self fulfilling prophecy)
- When you are around others who have achieved a similar goal you are more likely to believe that you can achieve it. (confidence from others performance)
- When someone we admire and respect genuinely believes in us, it makes a greater impact than others.
- Work ethic increases when we have faith in the result. People start to slack off when they feel hopeless. When we have a clear vision of success we tend to work harder. Ponder this question- Will you spend an extra 2 hours a day training your Mindset? How about if you knew 100% you would win an NCAA title next year if you did so? Of course there are no guarantees, but if you have positive expectations and Faith, you are much more likely to put in extra time.
With a family pedigree Chris has, also comes a tremendous amount of pressure. Pressure can break you or pressure can help you break records. The Perry family understands the concept of pressure very well. And it appears that they have this one covered. I've heard both Chris Perry and John Smith say, "Pressure is a Privilege." This privilege has helped him to break records.
I don't believe that Chris Perry was simply born to win. But it appears Chris Perry has used the Power of Positive Expectations to his advantage. So should you! Expect greatness and train as if you WILL win a state, national, or world title next year!
1. The focus should always be on your Effort & Attitude. If your Mindset is right you should look no different in your preparation before a match or in your level of Intensity during a match, whether you are in the national finals or wrestling an early season Saturday morning dual meet. Regardless of your opponent your effort and Intensity level is sky high and your Attitude is positive.
2. Everyone can be beat. No one wears an S on their chest. Even Superman is vulnerable to Kryptonite. We have seen all the greats lose- Jordan Burroughs, Dan Gable, Alexander Karelin, Kyle Dake, Logan Stieber, David Taylor, Ed Ruth and on and on. Top seeds get knocked off all the time, upsets happen, so why not be the guy who beats the "unbeatable".
3. A true Competitor is not afraid to lose. Looking back I don't regret the matches I lost because I always battled hard. What I regret is the times I didn't seek out the best possible competition to improve and put myself in difficult situations which would help me down the line. A true competitor knows that failure is not final it is feedback. Winners lose more than losers lose. Winners go for it a lot! But in the long run they are MUCH better because of it.
Five finals matches went into overtime and 12 out of 14 matches were decided by three or less points. The margin for error was so small in almost every finals match and in so many other matches down in Atlantic City. What was the determining factor in each match? Was it strength, speed, technique, confidence, conditioning, nutrition, awareness, luck or another factor?
It is difficult to determine exactly what made the difference in each match, but it certainly wasn't much. This is the reason we preach a holistic approach to wrestling. You really need to be the total package and do all the little things right all the time to give yourself a fighting chance. Maybe other people can get away with doing things right only 90% percent of the time. Most people however cannot.
Nowadays it isn't enough to simply outwork your opponent in the wrestling room. Almost everyone wrestles year round and works hard in the wrestling room. What else are you doing to create that slight edge and to win those close matches? If you think things like partying, drinking, smoking, and dipping in the off season are not going to affect you in these close matches you are a fool.
When we compete and wrestle it isn't simply you versus your opponent. It is your lifestyle versus his/her lifestyle. Now I am not saying that the "better" man always wins. BUT at some point in your career you will be in a close match. Maybe in the state finals, maybe in the medal round, maybe to qualify for the districts or regions. Chances are you are one or two points better if you cover all bases throughout the year. It may just make the difference.
3 different teams representing 4 state finalists used our Season Mindset Program this year. All four of the finalists won, and all 3 of these teams won their state sectionals. I am not here to say that our program is the reason they won. I will tell you that these teams/wrestlers leave no stone unturned in their quest to be the best. Something has to separate these wrestlers in these close matches whether it is Strength & Conditioning, Mindset training, Nutrition, or some other factor.
It hurts to watch people fall short of their goals when they work so hard. I've been there and my brothers have been there. It is frustrating and even heartbreaking to lose or fall short of a goal. BUT what is even more frustrating and sad is losing because you did not perform at your potential or because you didn't live the lifestyle that would have gave you the BEST chance to win.
Cover all bases this year. Join a wrestling club, sign up for wrestling specific strength training, work with a Mindset coach, get a nutritionist, stop drinking/smoking, get away from people who are holding you back. The margin for error is so small. Get that slight edge this off season. Live right. Make sure your lifestyle gives you the right to win. Improve your habits each day and those close battles will be yours.
1. Bombard yourself with positive thoughts and focus on your strengths. This is not the time to be critical of yourself. Dwelling on setbacks, losses, injuries or weaknesses will only hurt confidence. We recommend our athletes watch their highlight tapes and best performances leading up to championship weekend. Watch yourself execute technique and compete fearlessly. You are good enough to get the job done. See it, believe it, achieve it!
2. Ensure proper Energy Management. Now is the time to shorten workouts and avoid over training. The work is in the bank, don't try to cram a ton of work in the last few weeks of the season. On match day try not to think about wrestling until you begin your warm up. Mental and Emotional stress (from thinking about your opponent and matches) will drain your battery even faster than Physical stress. In between rounds, don't watch much wrestling. Jordan Burroughs admits that he does not watch a lot of wrestling when competing as this only makes him more nervous. Focus on rehydrating, refueling, and relaxing in between rounds. Listen to music, talk to people who will help you relax, get some fresh air, or do some deep breathing.
3. Visualize yourself warming up,competing, and executing technique in the arena. Be as vivid as possible, using as many senses as possible. Limit this to 10-15 minutes a day to avoid Mental and Emotional Stress from thinking too much about wrestling.
4. Act more Confident. The fastest way to feel more confident is to act more confident. Walk with purpose and swagger, control your breathing, and smile. Studies show that confidence is synthesized simply by acting more confidently.
5. Focus on winning positions and scoring points rather than on the match outcomes. If you get taken down to your back don't panic and begin thinking about how you will win the match. Focus on scoring the next point and then the next point and on and on. Our effort and attitude are 2 things we always control. These levels should be sky high, while you relentlessly try to win each position and score the next point for the duration of the match. If you do this, good things tend to happen and the outcome will take care of itself.
6. Plan on winning each match 2 or 3 times. Bad call no takedown, that's okay get another takedown. This philosophy is taken from Team USA head coach Zeke Jones. Never assume the calls will go your way. Take the refs out of the match and win the match again if you have to without complaining. You have a huge advantage if you take this attitude into each match, because your opponent likely will not.
7. Stay away from people who add pressure or cloud your mind. The further into the postseason the more coaches (club coach. personal coach, strength coach, mindset coach), family members and friends will be in attendance. Don't feel obligated to talk to anyone in between each round. Less is more sometimes.
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